My family

My parents were never married. I don't know them together as a couple although from the stories I've heard they were deeply inlove. I heard that my mom was a brilliant ballroom dancer and my dad used to attend her classes to make sure the dance partner did not try any of his moves on her! LOL! In 1985 my parents made decisions that would cement their decision to lead their lives separate from each other. My mom gave birth to my beautiful sister and my dad got married to Ma Nobe. The only thing that would speak about this bond they once had is me. I guess as much as I hate the name, I get why my grandma called me Witness. I am a "witness" of this love my parents once shared.

I have had times where I wish my parents had stayed together. Times I wished they would have made it work for my sake. Today, I look back at my life and I am so grateful to God that he planned it the way he did.

I am blessed to have a woman of such strong character as my mother. My mom is a single mom. She has raised my sisters and my brother on her own. She never once complained to the point where I am only realising now what an enormous task it is to raise a child. My mother took this role with both hands and did her very best. All my siblings love God. They know fellowship with Jesus. They long for more of Jesus. They speak about his greatness with a knowing that without him there is no life.  Moreover the Lord your God will circumcise your heart and the heart of your descendants, to love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, so that you may live (Deuteronomy 30:6). God has fulfilled this promise because my mother realised that she cannot raise us without God. Because she loves God and has taught her children to do the same, God has "circumcised" our heart so the we love the Lord with all our hearts and soul. My mother has echoed the words mentioned in 3 John 1:4 I have no greater joy than to hear than my children are walking in the truth. I would like to thank her for never once making me feel like she is threatened by my relationship with Ma Nobe. I am really grateful for that. 

My sister Akhona continues to be my inspiration. She raised my sister and brother when I chose to go to boarding school. She is ambitious and always pushing herself to move to the next level. She is full of love and very caring. She is married to Nathan and they are expecting their first child in July/Aug. My sister Lerato has had a journey in her life. She tried pushing her boundaries. We all continued to show her that she is loved. This year she volunteered to go back to school and is currently working towards finishing her high school. She speaks of God and her wisdom astounds me. She is a talented poet. Nathan has been such a blessing to all of us especially - my brother Ntsika. He has been the brother Ntsika has never had. My brother is talented and God continues to show his goodness in his life. Ntsika is so such a strong individual. Having gone from one school to another. He continues to cheerfully take up the challenge of finding new friends and adjusting to a new school environment. I would like to thank my mother for all that she has done for us.

My family at Akhona's wedding

I have had the privileged of seeing a successful marriage from my family. My dad has been married to Ma Nobe for 28 years! My father speaks about Ma Nobe with such love and admiration. He fulfils the scripture when it says "her husband praises her: Many women do noble things but you surpass them all." (Proverbs 31:29). He not only speaks that he loves her, he shows her.  He shows he cares by holding her hand in public or kissing her whenever he sees her. This is great for us as his children to see. For my brother to learn how he should treat his wife and for me to learn how I should be treated by my husband. Ma Nobe married my dad purely for love, I say this because we live in a society where people marry for the wrong reasons. My dad had nothing. He was a poor boy from Embokodweni and she was more privileged background in Emlazi (As privileged as your family can be under the apartheid system). She saw potential in him. She supported his dreams. She also accepted all of him - me included. My parents are blessed with a son. My brother's name is Vukani. I have seen first hand what support is like when it comes from parents who love each other and extend this love to you. Every decision my parents have made is fueled by their aligned vision of wanting the best for my brother. Vukani is blessed because from a young age has always known what he wants to be when he grows up. There are adults who die not knowing what they want to be when they grow up! He wants to be a pilot. My parents have supported this decision from the beginning. And have fueled his love for planes by making sure he boards one on a long-distance trip at least once a year! Thank you to my parents for showing me that marriage is something worth desiring.

Enjoying a dessert safari with my family in Dubai

Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be Psalm 139:16. I know that my life as it is was planned by God long before I was born. This makes me realise that none of it was a mistake. It's all part of God's perfect plan for me. And sometimes I won't understand but I have to rely on his abounding faithfulness and his unfailing love.

God bless